September 27, 2013

The Big Bang and the office dating game

Posted in Discrimination, Gender / Sex, Harassment, Hostile Work Environment, Office Dating, Sexual Harassment, Workplace Romance tagged , , , , , , , , at 10:47 am by Tom Jacobson

Raj & Mrs Davis

Raj & Mrs. Davis commiserate

In case you missed the season premier of The Big Bang Theory , it looks like romance may be on the horizon for Raj and the university’s Director of Employee Relations, Mrs. Davis. If that storyline goes anywhere, it will undoubtedly be fodder for many of my posts over the next few months, including this one.

In this episode, Raj has recently broken up with his girlfriend, and Mrs. Davis’ marriage is apparently on the rocks. The two of them hit it off well at a work party, so it doesn’t take a theoretical physicist to hypothesize where this is headed.

Workplace romance is nothing new, but it can be very difficult to manage. Take, for example, the recent case of Larson v. Arthur J. Gallagher & Co., where two female employees sued their employer for sexual harassment and related claims. Their claims were based on allegations that their manager had a practice of engaging in consensual but sexually inappropriate relationships with female employees, which led the manager to exhibit favoritism toward his paramours and those who supported (or did not disapprove of) his relationships. The plaintiffs also claimed the employer retaliated against them after they reported their concerns about these relationships.

The United States District Court for the District of Minnesota ultimately dismissed these claims after finding that the plaintiffs could not show widespread sexual favoritism or that men were treated differently than women. Regarding the retaliation claim, the court ruled that the plaintiffs could not have had an objectively reasonable belief that their employer broke the law; therefore they did not engage in protected activity when they reported their concerns.

What you need to know: Although the Larson case was dismissed, the parties no doubt spent considerable time and money litigating the issues. And the fact that this all led to an expensive lawsuit suggests that the overall workplace environment at this company was unhealthy. Perhaps they could have altogether avoided the angst and litigation with an office dating/relationship policy addressing topics such as:

  • The impact of such relationships on the work environment;
  • The types of relationships that are allowed or prohibited;
  • The right to say “no” if the relationship is or becomes undesired;
  • Employee’s options if feeling pressured to start or continue such a relationship;
  • Consequences if the relationship is between a superior and subordinate;
  • Employer’s options to change or end the working relationships of employees who are involved in romantic/dating relationships.

Office relationships can develop into romance, and when they do, they can be very difficult to manage. Implementing an appropriate workplace dating/relationship policy may ease the heartache. For more information about how to handle them, please contact me at or

The comments posted in this blog are for general informational purposes only. They are not to be considered as legal advice, and they do not establish an attorney-client relationship. For legal advice regarding your specific situation, please consult your attorney.

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